The easiest way to solve the problem of forgetting names


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Have you ever met an acquaintance that you have seen several times and have realized that you have forgotten his name? You stay there, arguing about your lives, your families or the gossip of the office while you try to remember secretly if it's called Steve or Paul (or maybe Dave?) And you hope he somehow drops a clue.

This happens to me a lot, usually during job interviews when the combination of adrenaline and nervousness hinders my ability to remember basic details, such as the name of my interviewer.

In some cases, honesty is probably the easiest answer. Telling someone that you are bad with names and asking him is not a terrible idea if you've only seen yourself once or twice before; a simple “I'm sorry, I'm not good with names. What was yours? ”It will be enough. In other cases, such as a job interview or if you've seen him several times, had lunch and even celebrated birthdays together, it probably wouldn't be good to ask his name at this time.

In a recent Reddit thread, users offered advice on how to find out someone's name without making things uncomfortable. OR/GrahamCr5ck3r He offered a good suggestion: give them your phone number and request their contact information; hopefully, they will complete their full name. I prefer this request by proposing a meeting to have a coffee or lunch, just to make the question feel less random. If it is a job interview or other professional environment, ask for your email address, which should contain at least part of your name (or ask for a business card).

If you may have exchanged contact information before, or/lurkerspeaks He used another strategy when he met an acquaintance. “I told him to send me a text message because I had a new phone and I lost my contacts (it wasn't like that),” he wrote. “His name appeared on the screen of my phone. I felt like James Bond. ”

And if that fails and you are in a social environment, introduce this person to someone you know, as our partner Tim recommends. In his experience, this person is likely to introduce himself to his friend, which will save you the discomfort of asking his name. (Tim, my name is Josh. We've worked together for at least a year.)

If you have come here and have not yet learned his name, ask them to add you on Facebook (or even LinkedIn) at the time or do the opposite and give them your phone number so they can add you; Even if you are already a friend, they will at least identify your profile so you can save yourself from the discomfort of asking your name.